Telling Part 3b
23 weeks 6 days
I have more details from the In Laws great reveal, but, as everything is 3rd hand I may not make this post as eloquent as it should be…
The In-Laws took the news exactly how I thought they would (excellently). You see my in-laws are respectful people, who, understand that us revealing our good news is something we need to do on our own time.
They even asked “Who can we tell and what can we say“. Amazing and the exact opposite of my mother’s reaction which will be (oh my god wait till I tell everyone including strangers I meet in an elevator).
Mr. Duck told the in-laws that, all we know are two things.
Firstly, we do not want to be the subject of gossip (and what great gossip it makes – a story of infertility, hospitalization and surrogacy!).
Secondly, we are proud of how our children are being brought into this world, we are proud that we are brave enough and strong enough not to just stop at barriers such as a useless uterus, and we are proud and protective of M (she has a life and a family and is doing this amazing thing for us – it’s hard to write all the feelings that you have towards the women who is carrying your child/children – but I will sum it up by saying we are extremely protective of her).
The in-laws agreed with both statements and agreed that they would hold onto the great news (but they will tell Mr. Duck’s brother). In terms of Mr. Duck’s extended family – many of them I would love for them to know about this (particularly his one aunt who constantly moans that she will never have grand children because her children “don’t want to have kids” but I am positive are infertile).
Apparently my mother in law keeps saying “twins, how wonderful”, or “two – you both always have one to hold”.
They are extremely excited and it feels so very good to know that they know.
Next up will be my sister (sometime in the next few weeks maybe).
I’m still undecided about the timing of telling my parents (I would have told my father months ago if he did not live with my mother) – of course they will know at some point, but, when?