Three days old (I think)
My memory is slightly foggy but that is just a side effect of sleep deprivation.
Our perfect little people are here.
On Tuesday at 4am we received a phone call from the very calm husband of the fantastic M saying that the babies “maybe on the way”.
The birth story is long, and I will hopefully write about it in detail but here is the highlights:
They arrived via c-section at 6:05 pm and 6:07 PM, as you know a c was not the plan and M laboured away from 4am to 4pm when c-sectionwas again discussed, if my memory is right, M dilated to 6cm at 8am and then stopped. The doctor (whom I think made the right recommendation) just said that it’s too risky, because he was still breach (he did turn transverse for a while), and the labour wasn’t progressing.
Baby A came screaming into the world at 6:05 PM weighing 5 pounds 12 ounces. She gave a nice huge cry as soon as she came out (we think they cleaned her up in the OR and we were outside the OR).
Baby B came out breach and from what I was told it was hard to get him out (he loved M’s ribs) at 6:07 pm, and they moved him directly into the room where we were. For what felt like an eternity but was only a few minutes he did not cry, we were told that his heart didn’t stop pumping he just wasn’t breathing yet. The team worked on him, and if you have never had an NICU team work on your baby then let me tell you it was like ER, there was a nurse yelling at the other staff to move and hurry and alterternately yelling at our little boy to breathe.
It was the worst 2 minutes of my life. Yet I didn’t cry (and still haven’t). All I could think was he has to be fine.
There is no other option.
Apparently his cord had a “true knot” (something they did not know until after the c section) and we were told that doing a vaginal birth would have been very dangerous and stressful on the little guy so we are so so so grateful for M’s willingness to have a c-section, yet again she proven what kind of a person she is, caring, generous and selfless…
We were so grateful for them to come into the world on tuesday, and so terrified that something would go wrong, it was such an intense day that days later we were visited by M’s original OB (who was there tuesday morning) she told us that she went home and bawled her eyes out because she couldn’t be there when the babies were born (she was at the end of her 24 hour on call shift), she said it was the first time in her career that’s ever happened.
More details on the days that follow their birth in another post.
For now I will leave you with a quote and some pics.
Our neighbour brought this amazing painting to us last night and it says
“For a long time, there were only
footprints & laughter
in our dreams
& even from
such small things,
we knew we could not wait
to love you forever.
(our neighbours get it – they get surrogacy – they get being infertile – they get it).
Little A (giraffe)
36 weeks 0 days
- The ticker tells me that M has baked the babies now till 36 weeks.
- I’m overwhelmingly happy that they’ve spent such a long time with M, it’s absolutely FANTASTIC.
- And we are SUPER SUPER excited for them to make their arrival! (and we’re still in the thick of name debating).
35 weeks 4 days
It looks like the baking shall go on!
I had an update from M and she wrote that the NST test today went great and that the babies are doing absolutely fine. This of course is fantastic news, which I take to mean that the babies will continue to bake on.
M has another NST scheduled for next Thursday (she’ll also see her OB then as that is the OB who will be reading the test next week).
Mr and I don’t have a lot on our plate this weekend except to go see Made in India at Hotdocs.
Anyone want to take a guess on when the babies are going to make their appearance? I’m sure M and I are curious to see if anyone guesses the right day…
35 weeks 2 days
The only time of the year when nature mocks me.
In the spring the miracle of new life is everywhere.
Tulips that we planted last fall appear and bring new life.
Ducks have tiny little ducklings.
Raccoons have tiny raccoons.
Some infertiles find Christmas to be the hardest time of the year.
For me, it’s spring, where even nature mocks me.
Except this spring.
This spring I feel light in my step, I happily look on as the flowers bloom, and I can not wait to see the first set of little ducklings.
It’s amazing what the generosity of one women can do to make your life so much better, and M has totally changed our life, without her I would be facing another depressing spring.
Instead, I am anxiously anticipating the birth of our 2 little people.
And according to the OB, that birth will not be happening anytime soon. She is hoping, and thinks it is possible for M to go until MAY 16th (aka 37 weeks and 6 days).
PS. M has NSTs scheduled for Friday and next Thursday just to keep an eye on what the babies are doing.
Some signs of new life from our garden:
35 weeks 2 days.
Today, hopefully is the second last OB appointment, one more next week and then *hopefully* the babies will be all ready to come!
I’m looking forward to being able to see M! And Mr. Duck and I will BOTH be there for the appointment (which is great as I feel like we can get a full understanding of exactly what will happen on the big day).
34 weeks 6 days
- I’m happy to report that we are almost into week 35. Tomorrow marks the first day of the 35th week for the babies. Each week means that the babies will spend less and less time in the NICU.
- Not too much new here – I’ve been busy pumping and cleaning and cooking (I’ve baked 2 lots of “lactation cookies” – I modified the recipe to increase the amount of oats, flax and brewers yeast – so it’s even healthier – and my freezer is now full of quick snacks.
- I’ve weeded my garden and all the lovely plants we planted last year are coming back to life, including the tulips that we planted last fall (maybe if the babies stay gestating I will take a pic).
- The next OB appointment is on Wednesday (looking forward to seeing M and hearing about how long more the babies may bake). The OB’s original plan was to plan an induction once M reaches 37 weeks according to her date-line(May 13th) – M’s OB has the due date as June 3rd and IVF.ca, myself and the high risk doc calculated the due date as May 31st.
- IVF.ca predicted that the babies “twin due date” is May 9th, mother’s day, and we’re hoping that the babies bake until then.
I know days of silence may have you wondering if the babies are here, and I promise, we will post something if anything exciting happens, Mr. Duck has a blackberry and I can post from that.
And now some pics of the nursery:
34 weeks 2 days
Yesterday we had the FINAL high risk OB appointment. M and the babies have now graduated and are under the full care of her OB, which is exciting! The babies can now come into this world at M’s local hospital, making it a whole lot easier on her and her family! YEA! It’s great to have one goal behind us.
The ultra sound tech was again, fabulous, this hospital is so warm and welcoming to IPs! I got to sit next to the tech and see all the uterus happenings.
And we discovered that they both have little surprises for us, both the little boy and little girl have hair! The little boy has more hair than the little girl, but, I was shocked to hear from the tech that they both have hair.
There was a biophysical test and they both received 8 out of 8. As part of the test the tech was trying to get the little boy to wake up and be a little active so she was poking at him with the probe. Well, our little boy thought that it wasn’t very cool so he gave us the finger! Then, I think, he felt guilty and gave us a peace sign (which he maintained for a while) and then just started punching around.
They’re both getting big, our little girl is 4.8 pounds and the little boy is 5.3 pounds! We’re really happy as she is considered average and he is above average for their gestational age!
Thanks for all your responses to my previous question. It got me thinking too, what would I do if I was pregnant? For me, if I was pregnant, I would have a c-section (but this is because I’ve had a laparotomy before and I am not interested in recovering from both).
So far, the plan is for M to try to do a vaginal delivery, and they will try to turn little boy to see if he wants to be head down. If he won’t cooperate, then it’s a c-section. I feel good about this plan and I am very happy that M and I both agree that a breach delivery is too dangerous to attempt!
Of course, as the high risk OB said yesterday ,it all will come down to the OB that is attending when M goes into labour and their experience/comfort level with attempting a vaginal delivery, after all they are the one that has to tell us what is safe/and what isn’t safe.
So, that’s the plan!
Next week we have an appointment with the regular OB, and it’s late enough in the day so that we can all attend! It will be good to hear her perspective on everything and as always it will be fun to see M again!